We have all experienced change at many points in our lives. Some of us embrace the process of change, while others look for any excuse to change as little as possible. You likely know which group you belong to.
As for me, I’m generally fairly adaptable to externally imposed change. When it comes to self-initiated change, I tend to avoid it for as long as I possibly can before I eventually give in to my intuition and make a change that turns my world upside down. Both types of change almost always lead to significant growth.
The pandemic has imposed an inordinate amount of change upon us. We’ve all been conditioned to live differently.
Since March 2020, I’ve been fortunate to continue practicing yoga with one of New York City’s master yoga instructors, Hollis Lewis. I do this over Zoom. Practicing yoga in the narrow space between my bed and closet with only a virtual sense of community for over two years has added an element of restriction to my practice. Human beings are incredibly adaptive creatures. I adapted to this restriction.
Yesterday, a friend invited me to join him at my first in-person yoga class in over two years. Wearing my nicer yoga wear, meeting new neighbors, and relating face-to-face with the instructor, Derric Harris, reminded me how high in-person yoga classes (and everything else!) can make you feel. For the remainder of the day, I felt like I was floating.
To open the class, Derric shared some wisdom that greatly resonated with me. He called our attention to the fact that, “Letting go is hard, but holding on is harder.”
So much of life is about letting go and embracing change.
I was fortunate not to have lost a loved one, significant relationship, or job during the pandemic. However, there are many nuances to loss. My work has become virtual. Many of my friends have moved away. My neighborhood gym, yoga studio, meditation center, vegan café, coffee shop, dry cleaner, tailor, and favorite boutique, restaurant, and bar are all gone. My long-term relationships with their proprietors and staff went with them. The bricks and mortar of the New York Open Center and Edgar Cayce’s Association for Research & Enlightenment, both places where I would take classes, attend events, and enjoy the community, have also departed. I feel the void.
As I think about all of these changes and Deric’s message, I’m reminded that life is finite. The best thing I can do is mourn the life that’s gone, let go of it, and look forward to the new adventures that are coming. Those of you who feel similarly may benefit from revisiting my article previously published by Spirituality & Health magazine, “Why Change is Difficult for Us (and Ways to Overcome It)”.
My clients make me intimately aware that so many people are going through a significant change right now — and that recreating our lives is doable and fun.
If you’re facing change in your life at this moment, here’s an affirmation:
I’m exactly where I’m meant to be right now.
I hope this brings you peace.