It’s easy to get sucked into the values of our social circle and not realize it. As we get older, we tend to think more about quality of life — not just how we stack up against others, but how satisfying that life is for us.
For many of us, a high-quality life means living in alignment with our own values and beliefs, not pressured to be part of a tribe or please others with our material possessions, appearance, or achievements. Instead, the focus is on our own well-being and satisfaction as well as making the world a better place in some way. I think of this as empowered living.
What that life will look like for each individual is different. But one thing I’ve seen in my career — first in private banking, now as a holistic life coach — is that most people who step into empowered living tend to have a core foundation of attributes already in place:
Holistic Health – Being free of mental, physical, or emotional dis-ease makes it much easier to show up fully for life. When one aspect of us is out of balance, the others will usually eventually feel it too. Pay attention to your health. Feel out of synch—physically drained, emotionally off, or mentally scattered?
Take action to restore balance, because your health is the foundation that supports your life. Protect it with a vengeance.
Financial Stability – Money isn’t everything, but chronic financial stress can destroy your quality of life. When we’re constantly worried about our finances, our nervous system remains in overdrive. Prolonged financial stress is linked to a myriad of chronic diseases including high blood pressure, digestive and thyroid issues, sleep problems, a weakened immune system, and mental health. Sound like you?
Aim to live within your means or adjust your lifestyle in order to enjoy a greater sense of peace.
Meaning – Living a meaningful life through purposeful action is your best chance at fulfillment. Meaning can come through family, work, faith, serving others, pursuing a passion, or contributing to anything larger than yourself. Research reveals that those who help others experience less depression, greater calm, less pain, and better overall health. What inspired you as a child?
Consider engaging in your passions to help you experience the magic that is meant for you in this life.
Self-Forgiveness – We often judge ourselves more harshly than we do others. We get stuck and can’t evolve when we hold on to perceived mistakes, old narratives, regret, guilt, and shame. Forgive yourself as you would any loved one, neighbor, or colleague. Still stuck on something from the past?
Accept where you were at in the past, know that you did your best, fully release it, and step forward into re-creation.
The subtle messaging of our culture may lead us to believe that we need more than these attributes to be eligible to live in an empowered way. But if you find yourself unencumbered by any constraints inherent in the above and have the right mindset, you have the potential to elevate the quality of your life. THIS is a great way to live!
These last weeks of August often have us thinking about actions we would like to take once the more active energy of fall comes in. Should you want to address any of the above areas, I’m here for you. 😉